I have this odd tendency which seems to be either more prevalent in my life or I'm just becoming more conscious of it, so I ask you this question. Please answer it before you read on:
If you know something is inconstant, is it right to distance yourself from it or not value it as much as something you know is constant?
Ok, since you now have that opinion, I'll tell you my difficulty: I know that some friendships I have will not last. It's not that these relationships will explode at some point, it's more of a slow withering which occurs and which I have observed in many interactions I have with people. After this realization, it seems best to create an emotional distance from those relationships which would only serve to (at worst) hurt both individuals or (at best) be a slight obligatory misuse of time.
The difficulty with all this is that I know the logic of it, but something in me can't accept that this is how a healthy individual should be treating those around her or him. I'm hoping some input from someone will give a bit better light on a problem which has kinda haunted me for a long time.
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Hi Josh
Nice Blog!
This is an important question... One I've pondered myself. I think the thing is, you can't treat people like sudoku puzzles. Relationships are messy and often defy logic. I don't know what the answer is to this question but I would think that if you withheld yourself due to fear of pain/discomfort, that would mean locking yourself in a closet for the rest of your life - the world is a hard place - relationships are part of what makes it great and makes it hard at the same time.
I've been through this a fair bit lately, lots of people in my life have been uprooted (mself included). the hard thing for me is remembering to be flexible with expectations.
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